I’ve been playing music since 2008 and in that time, there have been a lot of interesting things that I’ve gotten to witness.
When it comes to creating shows for SFK or myself I usually run the gambit of emotions much like the stages of grief.
If I send an invitation to a friend to come out and they tell me they can’t come, I’m all right with that. People have work and school and things that’ll prevent them from attending, it natural.
When I don't get a response it’s kind of irritating. You at first shrug it off as them dragging their feet until it soon matures into worry. ‘What if they didn’t get it? What if it glitches and they didn’t notice my invite? I better send them another one just in case.’
In today’s modern age, we have the ability to know if the target of our message has received it. Not only that, but we can also know when they saw it. If you get to this stage in the game, it’s about time where rage makes an appearance.
It normally is something that is unavoidable because, after all, why haven’t they said anything yet? What did they get into a gunfight right in the middle of looking at your invite? They shouldn’t be online in the first place!
After a while the anger becomes depression since we feel their apathy is a reflection on us. Maybe they don’t like our stuff and think by saying nothing it wont hurt our feelings. In all honesty we’d prefer criticism to the lack of communication.
When all is said and done depression turns into acceptance.
At some point you’d think that I would have become well adjusted to the concept of people not responding and then bailing out. In all honesty I am slowly getting better at it, but I don’t really stop getting these feelings no matter how hard I try.
Take this as a lesson in dealing with people or as Yoda once said
Matthew Tyler Di Leo
Searching For Kim; Lead Vocals